Fri-yay Fun-yay!!

It's finally freaking Friday! This week was a super long one. Yesterday felt like the neverending day. Seriously. I didn't take a lunch due to leaving early to take my son to the airport to see his dad, and the day just dra g    g      e           d  .............

You know what I think is really cool? Being able to STALK my son's flight and knowing exactly where it is. I stayed up way past my bedtime waiting to make sure he made it in Chicago and found his grandparents without any issues, but that's just what we do as mom's right?

I sent Justin that picture and said "you're almost there!" and I think it kind of freaked him out because he replied "how do you even know that???".

Yes, mom's really do know everything!

I have a bunch of things from this week that I've absolutely been loving. Let's start with my FAVORITE. 

Obviously.

Now to my second favorite thing this week...

Shaun Week!!

I know I've mentioned this a million times, but it's worth mentioning again.

I'm not a beachbody coach and I'm not trying to sell you anything.

I just really love beachbody workouts. 

And these workouts so far this week are no exception. First of all, I've lost 3 pounds this week! Yes, seriously! I have been stuck at the same higher weight since about February and it's been really frustrating, but with this loss I'm almost at my lowest post-Jules weight! As I mentioned earlier, it was time for me to start being honest with myself about how much I've been eating and that's exactly what I've done this week and I'm finally seeing some results. Go figure.

I don't think the results are solely based off my eating though...these new Shaun T workouts are amazing! They are actually not quite as intense as my usual workouts and they're shorter than I'm used to (23-43 minutes), but they are seriously effective and I'm feeling the burn all over! To be fair, I've added a few extra workouts in (running, my core workout, and HIIT), but I'm seeing results doing this that I haven't seen in the past 4 months...so yeah. 

Also I love Shaun T as a trainer - there's a reason Insanity is my favorite program ever and I can see this becoming another favorite as well! 

I'm going to be deciding this weekend what my next program will be and I'm seriously considering not doing the last week of P90X next week, but I haven't made a decision yet. Don't worry, I'll let you know what I decide and I'll post my new workout schedule once I figure it out!

Since I've been really watching what I eat and drink, there are two things that have been my saving grace this week. 

That Halo Top is my favorite flavor of all of the "healthy" ice cream that's out there. I usually eat about 1/3 of a cup at the end of the night and it tides me over and keeps me from noshing on something else. Like an entire box of animal crackers. Not that I'd ever do that...this week...

And those drink mixes. Oh man. So I love water. Like I legitimately LOVE water and drink it all day long and usually don't like to drink anything else except for booze. The problem is that I was kind of reliant on drinking a glass of wine at night to wind down at the end of the day. And wine has calories. And my glass of wine was probably more like a glass and a half. So since I've been seriously cutting down on booze, I decided to try to find a substitute so I could still go through the ritual of winding down with a drink, but without the booze/calories. For awhile there we were buying Mio, but that shit has some seriously awful ingredients. All sorts of things that I can't pronounce and food dyes and pretty much all the stuff you should really try to avoid in life.

So I found these drink mixes in Walmart and they are fantastic! They're not anywhere near as sweet as most drink mixes, which I actually like since consuming too many sweet things dumbs down your tastebuds and then you require even MORE sweet things to satisfy cravings. Not even kidding, those are scientific terms and everything. These are flavored with natural ingredients, including stevia, which I know some people don't like the taste of but I don't mind. And it's dyed with beet juice and other natural dyes! The watermelon is my favorite, so I like to make a tall glass with ice and then sit and relax on the couch while sipping my hooch. 

Let me know if you check them out! Like I said, they're not as sweet as other drink mixes but by the second day you can't even tell anymore. 

The giant pile of laundry isn't really a favorite, however the two hours of Handmaid's Tale that I watched while folding the laundry is definitely a fave of the week. I think I'm 5 episodes in and let me tell you what...HOLY CRAP. I love this show and will probably watch a few episodes this weekend if I can handle them. Because it's super intense and I actually have a hard time watching more than one episode at a time because it kind of freaks me out a bit. 

In other favorite tv show news, I finished Girls last weekend. I'm sad because as cringe-worthy as the show was, I actually ended up really enjoying it! And I loved the way it ended. No spoilers here but if you're a 20 to 40-something and looking for an interesting show to watch, check it out!

Now that I'm done with that I think I might try finishing Divorce on HBO, the new season of The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, and I'm rewatching The Gilmore Girls because it's the best show ever. So there you have it - my tv faves of the moment!

I ran in shorts this week! I have mentioned this in the past, but one of my goals for 2017 was to run in shorts and do so comfortably. I never used to have a problem until I started gaining weight after going off Yaz a couple of years ago, and I hate when my shorts ride up when I run. I'm talking I get pissed off when it happens and stop my run and probably throw a temper tantrum. So I have just stopped wearing shorts and wear yoga pants. The problem with that is it's hot AF in Florida and running in shorts is almost a necessity. So yesterday morning I did it. It was only for 11 minutes, but I was running really fast that entire time and my shorts only made me go crazy like once. So I call that a win and a fave from the week!

Another fave from yesterday morning...

No filter needed sunrise pic for the win!

While looking through my old pictures for my blog on Wednesday I cam across this gem of an oldie but goodie. 

He wore that mustache for like a week and walked around all "excuse me, ma'am, but I mustache you a question..."

And this pic has me all sorts of excited for fall in New England! 

That was taken at our favorite place to hike in Massachusetts, Mount Tom. I've promised Justin we'll drive over to see my wifey Lucy and go hiking at Mount Tom and eat hot dogs at Nick's Nest ASAP upon our arrival in Rhode Island. I hope Jules loves hiking as much as we do!

So I sent this to my boss yesterday...

And he was totally cool with it. One of the things I'll miss most about Florida is my boss. He's very cool, very relatable, and is totally fine with me sending him a post from fuckjerry on Instagram or ridiculous Snapchats. 

I'm getting a spelling error for "relatable". And it's totally spelled right.

Get yo shit together, squarespace!!

I've had a couple of people recently make comments about my eyelashes and mascara game being strong, so I have decided to share my secret with you...

I use two different type of mascara. A volumizing one that I put on first and a lengthening one. You want to put them on without any break between them - so I put the volumizing on the right eye and follow immediately with the lengthening before doing my left eye. I love Maybelline mascara - I've even tried the super expensive Diorshow mascara and always come back to Maybelline because it's better. And I always use the regular kind - never waterproof. I hate waterproof mascara because it flakes off and looks terrible by the end of the day and I feel like it damages my lashes. 

So now you have the secret to my glorious eyelashes!

Finally I have one BIG recommendation to you and it's a huge YAY for me this week...

The Beatles XM channel is LIFE!!! My XM hasn't changed from this channel since I heard about it late last week and I don't think it will change any time in the near future. The Beatles have such fun and awesome music and I always have fun when I listen to them. Even when the song is "Yesterday". 

Question for you...

What are you doing this weekend? Do you have any fun plans? Any music or TV you can recommend to me? Don't forget it's Father's Day on Sunday!

This should be a fairly low-key weekend since Jason is working all of it but Sunday (and he's working Saturday night so he will be sleeping most of Sunday). I am going to go thrifting for winter clothes and stuff with a friend tomorrow and also plan on getting a poke bowl because I need to eat as many as possible before I leave. 

Speaking of leaving...we leave in 4 weeks...

Holy shit!!

Have a great weekend, friends!

Time for some Monday

And WHAT a Monday it is! My car is being dumb so I had to take it to the car shop where I'm sure they'll try to inflate everything that's wrong with it so they can get all of my money. And it's cloudy and rainy and just blaaaaaaaaaaah outside. This is the day where I wish I could call in and hang out at home while wearing my unicorn onesie pajamas, but I'm a responsible grown-up so I'll just go to work and be all responsible and stuff. So dumb. 

Plus, my vacation time doesn't renew until July, so I don't have any time to take anyway.

I obviously have a case of the Monday's today! It doesn't help that there is a huge wolf spider in Julianna's room. At least that's the last place I saw it. And that mother effer RAN at me when I tried to go in and kill it. So of course I ran from her room while screaming bloody murder and now I don't know where that asshole is. What I do know is that wherever it is, it's probably plotting to kill me in my sleep EVEN though it's not poisonous. It's so big that it will actually grab a knife from the kitchen and STAB me in my sleep. Yeah, not even exaggerating...

So today I'm going to do a weekly workout round-up/weekend happenings/what I'm doing this week for workouts post. 

Monday - P90X Chest & Back and Core

I don't remember ANYTHING about this workout, so it must have been fine. Actually, that's a lie...I do remember that I actually struggled more during pretty much all of my workouts last week until Friday. Like I had to do less reps with the same weight. Which is annoying. I'm assuming it's because I'm watching what I'm eating a bit more and not carb loading for a non-existent race like I have been the past 16 months (2 years...). Also, I look super puffy in the 2nd picture compared to the 1st...I'm swole??

Tuesday - Turbofire, HIIT, and Core

I may have mentioned this a million times in the past month or so, but Jules is sleeping terribly again. So she's been waking up between 4-5 and getting up with me for my workout, which usually is fine. I had hoped to run on Tuesday and Thursday this week, but it was thunderstorming both mornings and with Jules being awake that makes it a double-nope. So I subbed a 30 minute kickboxing workout and 10 minutes of HIIT on Tuesday, along with my core workout. 

Jules is also doing this thing where if I put her down for any period of time and leave the room she screams bloody murder. So this is how I have been able to get ready for work...

#nopantsclub #workingmomlife #idowhaticantomakeitallwork

Wednesday - P90X Shoulders & Arms & Core

I apparently only got a before workout picture...my bad! I'm sure we will all live without the after and don't worry, I have so many more to show you!

Thursday - Kickboxing & Core

See?!? More pictures! I couldn't run on Thursday as I mentioned above, so I did a 53 minute Turbofire workout and my core workout. And I mixed things up by taking my before and after workout pictures in our still clean bathroom mirror. Ooooooooooooooh!!!

Friday - P90X Legs & Back and Core

Oh man, that's a great before picture! Classic Jamie. Jules woke up midway through my workout on Friday and at one point I was doing these squat jump things and I knocked her down with my butt. To be fair, I didn't know she'd gotten off the couch.

Best. Mom. Ever.

Also, I love messy baby wake-up hair. She looks so cute all mussed and messy!

Saturday - RUN DAY

Awwwww...look how hopeful and smiley my before workout picture is!! Jason ended up picking up a shift Saturday morning so I had to run with the stroller, but I figured it wouldn't be a big deal since pretty much all of my long runs are with the stroller. We even ended up leaving an hour earlier than we left the week prior - it's gonna be a great run!!

1.5 miles in....

4 miles in....

It was SO EFFING HOT and humid out during this run. Oh my GOSH it was rough. I literally had sweat pouring off of me by the time I was done. And for some reason I decided to challenge myself and run the bridge, which I hit at 2.25 miles and 4.5 miles. I actually ended up walking once I hit the top of the bridge and going down it on the way back because I had zero gas left and still had 2 miles left to run. Also I didn't wear a hat for some reason...still not sure why. So all of the sweat went into my eyes and I didn't have protection from the sun at the end. 

But by the time I was done and stretched, I was actually pretty happy about the run because it was the furthest I've ran this year! I was supposed to do some sprint repeats at the end, but decided that was a horrible idea and just ran the 6 miles. 

Do you SEE how freaking sweaty I am here?!? GROSS!! When I picked Jules up from her stroller she actually didn't want to touch me because I was so disgusting. Can't say I blame her!

The rest of Saturday was spent cleaning, errand running, and hanging out with some friends.

Walking the dog... 

Waiting out the rain before dashing into the grocery store...

Shoving a delicious poke bowl in my face hole...

Shenanigans...

Sunday - REST DAY

Which involved me taking a NAP with Jules from 10-12 because I was up past my bedtime hanging out with friends and watching Girls Saturday night and Sunday also involved cleaning/organizing for the move. 

Here you can see Jules is wearing a long-sleeved onesie and her Christmas dress from last year - both still fit her really well, so I think she'll be wearing them both again this year (just not at the same time). 

So now I have something important to ask you...

Do you know how to get rid of wolf spiders? I need to catch this killer death spider before it hunts me down and eats my face off. 

Also, how do you feel about the same Christmas dress 2 years in a row? I'm actually 100% into it because (1) it's cute and (2) she only wore it for like 4 hours...that's a waste of money and I'm a cheapskate!

As for my workouts this week, I actually only have one week left of P90X - time flies when you're having fun - BUT there's a new set of Shaun T workouts being released this week and I love him. So I'm putting P90X on hold for this week and doing Shaun T week and then I'll do my last week of P90X next week. So be sure to keep an eye out for my results/thoughts on both of those programs!

Here's to a great Monday, friends! 

Fri-YAY Fun Post (and am I crazy?)

Happy Friday to all of you, my friends! It's such a great day, isn't it? I love Friday. I know I've said this before, but I like Friday even more than the Saturday or Sunday because it's the day that starts the weekend and I'm always in a great mood knowing I have 2 days off coming up! 

Today's post is going to be all about the things that are making me say YAY! Some of them will be funny, some will be weird, some might be annoying for some of you, but whatever! It's my blog and I do what I want. 

Don't tell me how to live my liiiiiiiiiiiiife!! 

First and foremost, how many of you are like me and you eat well for a few days to a week and start looking at yourself like, have I lost all of the weight yet? Am I making progress? Am I skinnier yet?

This was me yesterday and I was feeling good. Like, oooooh I feel so good in this dress and my stomach is feeling flatter and YAYYYYYY. Then this morning I weigh-in and I've lost less than a pound in 2 weeks. Mother fucker. 

This weight loss stuff is so fucking frustrating and I hate how I can feel good one day and the next be so annoyed because the scale is a dumb whore. 

Am I the only one who goes through this? Am I insane? Please tell me I'm not crazy...at least not in this regard. 

Also, sorry about the language...I'll limit my French from here on out :-)

This is the other sunrise picture I took last week after my run when the sunrise was just so freaking pretty. No filter needed here, my friends!

How about some fun/ridiculous take-out pictures?

You know, these are the pictures that I deemed not worthy for other blog posts, but put in here because I have zero shame.  

Here's a series of the ridiculous faces I make when doing my pre/post-workout pictures. 

I am so photogenic. 

Speaking of photogenic...time for some BABY SELFIES!!

She gets it from her mama!

And her daddy too

I love how curly her hair is! I hope she keeps the curls and has beautiful, wavy, thick hair like her daddy. 

Just in case you're wondering where Justin is, he's been up in his room playing video games except for the times I order to him to come downstairs and hang out for an hour or two while I'm making/eating dinner or when I yell at him for not doing his chores. 

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Oh how I wish I had a summer break again. I've actually thought about getting my teaching certificate and becoming a teacher, but that would be a big problem for me because:

  1. I like money and things and that would be a huge pay-cut and homie don't play that
  2. I don't really like children very much. I mean, I like my kids and my friends kids and my nieces and nephews. But that's because they're all pretty well-behaved and not total assholes and have manners. It's the asshole kids without manners that I don't like to be around and I have the feeling teachers have to deal with a lot of those. 

So no being a teacher and having a summer break for me! Womp womp!

Would you like to hear about how crappy Jules has been sleeping?

There's apparently an 18 month sleep regression and I'm 99% sure Jules is going through it right now.

On top of that, toddlers apparently start having nightmares around her age and I'm pretty sure she's having those too. They can start around 18 months or earlier if the child has experienced some sort of trauma, which the poor little girl has definitely dealt with :-( 

So what we're dealing with right now is a toddler who wakes up at least once in the middle of the night and absolutely will not let me put her down. I've tried rocking her and putting her back down in her crib and patting her back, but she's absolutely not having it. And then I work full-time and can't miss out on the limited sleep I do get, so I'm lazy and put her in my bed with me. So now she's doing this super fun thing where she wakes up between 4:00-5:00 and thrashes around and flings herself all over the bed, waking me up repeatedly until we both finally get up when I workout. Then she sits on the couch or bed while I'm working out and whines/cries through most of it. 

Needless to say, she's killing me. I am so tired and find myself getting frustrated with her and then feeling horrible since I know she's just a growing toddler and this kind of behavior is to be expected. I am hesitant to do sleep training again, since I don't want to traumatize her any further, but I don't know how much longer I can live like this. 

Do any of you have any advice? Have you gone through this and found a way to help the situation? 

"That flash is so bright mom, don't take pictures this early!!"

And to that I say, "your foot is so strong and swift when it kicks me in the head at 4:30 in the morning...stop doing that and I'll stop taking pictures"

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DEAL????

(she's flailing around and fussing in that picture...send help...I'm going to lose my marbles)

You know how I have absolutely no shame and like to post horrendous pictures of myself for your enjoyment? Well here come some goodies!

I'm pretty sure I was trying to show how tired I was after my run in this picture, but all I'm getting from this picture is that I sweat a lot and make some INteresting faces. 

Of course I took more than one super unflattering pre-Jules jeans pictures! No shame in my game, folks! I need to just burn those dumb pants. BURN THEM!!!!!!!!

Except they're really nice jeans, so first I'm going to try to sell them to a thrift store. But then if they don't take them, I'm BURNING THEM!!

Speaking of flash...

That didn't work at all. But it does show that our bathroom is still pretty clean and organized and I'd like to give myself a pat on the back for that

*tries to pat self on back but remembers that I have no shoulder flexibility so I just scratch my neck instead*

Close enough.

Finally, I have some music recommendations for you guys! Do any of you even listen to any of my recommendations? If you don't, you should!

  • Reverend by Kings of Leon (late on the train for this one, but I love it!)
  • Wish I Knew You by The Revivalists
  • Slide by Calvin Harris
  • Know No Better by Major Lazer with Travis Scott
  • Rollin by Calvin Harris

For tv stuff, I'm still watching Girls and currently in the last season. I really like this show and would recommend it to everyone! Lots of boobs and butts with some "V" thrown in as well, just so you're not thrown off guard when it pops up on the screen. 

I also started watching The Handmaid's Tale last weekend and can I just say, HOLY SHIT! This show actually stresses me out so much that I can only watch one episode at a time. And tv shows never have that effect on me. But it's SO GOOD! 

Finally, the new season of Orange is the New Black was released today! Woohoo!! I will probably wait a month or two before watching, which is what I always do...once I watch it, I have to wait another freaking year for more! So I like to wait and savor knowing that it's there to watch before I binge all of the season in one weekend. Anyone else do this?

That about sums things up for me! This weekend should be fairly low-key, but busy. We're taking Justin out for dinner tonight to get some Udon/Ramen because he made the honor roll. I have a 6 mile run with some sprints at the end planned for tomorrow morning and I'm going to do it without Jules, which should make things easier...however as things always happen with running, it'll probably end up being a total shit show instead. Or it'll rain like crazy the entire time like it's been doing all week and I won't run at all - I'll run if it's raining just a little, but it has been straight pouring/storming every morning this week. Then we're having some friends over Saturday night and I may or may not be painting my kitchen table on Sunday #norestforthewicked

How about you? Do you have anything fun planned this weekend?? I hope it's a great one for you!

Tuesday Catch-Up and Randomosity!

Happy not-Monday! It's always so much nicer when it's not a Monday, am I right? Today has me getting back into the swing of things, going back to work, and hopefully getting into a routine again. Which I think our entire family desperately needs!

Is anyone else a total creature of habit? I do love to do things spontaneously here and there - spontaneous beach trip, unplanned lobster dinner, winning the lottery (that would be nice...) - but for the most part, I do really well when I'm able to stick to my schedule.

Here's an example of my usual weekday schedule: 

5:00am - wake-up and convince myself to roll out of bed and work-out

5:30ish-6:40 - workout

6:40-8:00 - shower, get ready for work, get Jules ready for daycare, wake Justin up multiple times and remind him to shower/eat/brush his teeth/wear deodorant, run around like a chicken with its head cut off, make breakfast, run out the door 5-10 minutes behind schedule and rush to daycare/work

8:45-5:30 or so - #girlboss

6:00-7:30 - make dinner, clean up after dinner, try to play with Jules and talk to Justin before Jules has a tired-toddler melt-down, give her a bath, read story, put to bed, take a deep breath. 

8:00-9:30 - clean up more, prep meal for lunch the next day, eff around on Facebook/Snapchat/the 'gram, talk to my husband if he's not working, collapse into bed and hopefully fall asleep hardcore-style before waking up at 5 the next day and doing it all over again. 

I actually hope to do a day-in-the-life post once we get back into our normal schedule/routine and Jules is doing better, but you get the idea for now. Needless to say, being in the hospital and in and out of doctor's offices for the past week and half has really thrown our schedule for a loop. We were in the actual hospital for 3 nights and 4 days so my workouts and eating have not been where they normally would (and obviously I am okay with this since we had much more important things to worry about).

I think there are two types of people when it comes to dealing with stress - those who don't eat at all and lose weight and those who stress eat everything in sight and end up gaining weight. I'm the person who stress eats everything (especially carbs/cereal/chips) and even though the scale and I had broken up, I decided to check out the damage this morning to see where I am...let's just say that I now have 12 pounds of weight to get back down to pre-Jules weight instead of 7. Womp womp. 

Again, I'm not really super upset about it since we had so much more important things to worry about, but with my weight inching up and knowing in the back of my mind that I have issues with my blood pressure being close to the high-end of normal along with borderline pre-diabetic blood sugar, this is not really something I can just ignore. This isn't really so much about vanity and wanting to look good as it is about being healthy long-term so I can be around for a long-long time and not have any crazy health issues. So I am jumping back onto the workout train and trying to chill out on my eating/drinking and will hopefully be able to lose what I've gained in the past week and a half pretty quickly and then continue to chip away at the rest of it. Like I've said before, it's not that I'm obsessed with the number itself, but I am obsessed with getting my overall health itself back to normal/excellent. Too bad being able to do a million burpees isn't a health factor that doctor's look at because I am awesome at that. 

Moving on from that tangent, why don't we talk about other random crap that we've been up to outside of being in the hospital? The last time we really caught up was in my Fri-yay before Mother's Day post, which seems like it happened months ago!

Mother's Day weekend was a pretty nice weekend. Jules obviously wasn't feeling 100% so it was pretty low-key, but we did a lot of relaxing and goofing off, which is two of our favorite things to do!

All the cool kids wear bowls on their heads.

I obviously had to get a poke bowl...because duh. 

And I had to eat my Mother's Day cake - which I devoured over the course of the weekend. With a baby fork. While standing at the counter #icantimaginewhyicantlosethebabyweight

On actual Mother's Day, all I really wanted was to go for a run, have mimosas, take a long bath, and not have to cook any food myself. Which ended up happening pretty much 100% and it was GLORIOUS!

Jules and I woke up and went for my longest run since December. It was slow and hot and super sweaty with the humidity, but it was still a great run. 

Don't worry...Jules had sunblock slathered all over her little feet so they didn't get burnt - it was just too warm to have her in socks or cover her with a blanket and her ankle was swollen and tender at this point so I didn't want her to wear shoes or anything. Whenever we run I always give her a snack and water and she usually eats and drinks all of it and then takes a nap until we stop - easy peasy!

Then I came home to this...

And Jason made me an awesome breakfast. Then I was able to take a nice and relaxing bath before hanging out with Jules and watching movies on the couch for most of the afternoon. Finally Jason prepared some awesome steaks and crab legs for dinner that I scarfed down before meeting my BFF at the airport to bring her car seats and a stroller, since she was in town for the week on a Disney/beach vacation. 

Monday morning I woke up a bit later than usual and did my workout as planned...

Then I noticed Jules ankle was warm to the touch and we all know what happened then. 

We got home from the hospital early evening on Thursday and I did manage to fit in a couple of workouts on Friday and Sunday - just the strength training stuff; I wasn't in the mood for cardio. 

On a sidenote...here's where you can typically find our cats when they're not sleeping in a sliver of sunlight somewhere. They like to chirp at the birds/lizards that are outside on our patio. Sometimes a lizard will jump onto the door and the cats go nuts trying to chase them all over through the glass. It's insane. 

And that about sums up all of the non-illness/hospital related stuff we've been up to the past week and a half. It's not a lot, because the illness and getting Jules better has taken precedence and been at the forefront of everything, however I think I'm starting to see a light at the end of this tunnel. Jules is slowly putting more weight on her foot and was standing without support quite a bit yesterday, but she's still very timid and hesitant to take any steps. We had an appointment with the infectious disease doctor yesterday afternoon and he said it seems that she's responding to the antibiotics really well and we may even be able to stop them at two weeks instead of three, which would be amazing!

Cross your fingers that she'll be back to running around like a crazy toddler in the next couple of days! I'll be back tomorrow with another What it is Wednesday, since I actually have some fun stuff to talk about that I think you should know about!

Now I want to know, are you a stress eater and weight gainer like me, or are you one of the stress weight losers? I find that I turn to comfort food and all of the carbs whenever I am stressed. It's kind of crazy because when I look at the pictures from my workout on Monday compared to Friday, I can really tell a difference in my arm definition - I'm a lot more puffy in the pictures from Friday. But I know it will go away and I honestly just don't care that much at this point. I'm just extra swole and was carb-loading for the race...that I don't have scheduled. Or planned. It's just an excuse. Whatever. :-)

Friday is my Favorite!

How about you?! I think I might like Friday even more than Saturday sometimes!

I actually took yesterday off due to needing some additional recovery time after going to the Red Hot Chili Peppers concert with my husband Wednesday night. Sometimes we like to go out and fake like we're in our 20's, except we most definitely are NOT in our 20's and my body is very quick to let me know that now. 

Prior to heading out Wednesday night Jules and I took Jax for a longer walk around the neighborhood. She loves seeing the pond and water feature in our neighborhood and I knew I needed to make sure she was SUPER exhausted so she'd sleep well for the babysitter. 

Here's something fun you probably don't know about me...whenever I drink I like to climb things. Trees, flag poles, fences, the side of my parent's house (it's a log house and super fun/easy to climb...). You name it, I've probably tried to climb it. So when we were out walking around downtown Orlando late Wednesday night and I saw the PERFECT tree seat up in a tree, you know I had to climb it!

The quality of the picture isn't the best, but you get the idea. I like that I am still wearing my purse even though I'm in a tree. 

Then we had to find one of the Lake Eola swans, which wasn't too hard since they are effing HUGE! 

This picture does not do the size of this swan justice - it's probably bigger than me and I'm not even exaggerating. And I'm sure you all know how mean swans can be - this is not a swan I'd want to run into in a dark alley #gangsterswan

As I mentioned, we went out on Wednesday to see the Red Hot Chili Peppers concert, and it was really good - I highly recommend you see them if you get the chance! I also recommend you see them if you would like to be surrounded by all the pot smoke in the entire world. People weren't smoking pot like that at the Adele and Sia concerts we went to last fall, I'm just saying. I don't partake myself, however there's no judgement from me. I'm just all about the beer. 

We ended up running into a coworker of mine and hung out with him and his wife for a bit, which was a lot of fun. Even though they're long-time Orlando residents, neither of them had ever been to Frosty's Christmastime Lounge, which is one of my favorite bars in Orlando. Where else can you get snowed on and watch Christmas movies year-round?

Needless to say, yesterday was a total rest day for me - no work and no workout. So I was ready to go when I got up this morning. 

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Orrrrrrr not so much. I didn't use a filter on that picture to really drive home how tired I was this morning. But I got up and I did my workout - no gains in weight or reps this week, but I think I'm still tired from faking like I was 25 on Wednesday night (will I ever learn? NOPE!).

Mid-workout FORCED smile picture.

I look kind of psychotic. 

And a super forced after workout smile to really stress how tired I was. But I still did my workout and for that, I'm proud of myself!

Moving on to something I think is a lot of fun...DATE NIGHT! I thought it would be cool to put together a list of my favorite date night ideas, since I don't know about you, but I get sick of dinner and a movie dates. I will list them in sequence of price, from free to Adele concert. 

Not Dinner and a Movie Date Night Ideas:

Go for a run!

I know, I know...that's not for everyone, but if you don't like to run you could also go for a walk or something. Either way, you get out of the house and get some endorphins and spend time with your love. And it's FREE!

Go hiking and bring a picnic lunch

Obviously this would be more of a day/afternoon date, since you probably don't want to go hiking in the dark. And I know some people might go all out with a picnic and try to be all fancy with cheese and wine and crap, but in our house we would just pick up some Subs from Subway or Publix and some water. #wefancyhuh

Parking is free at the parks here in Orlando, so this would be a $10-15 max cost and hiking is always a good time as far as we're concerned. 

Hit up a brewery

Jason and I love beer and tasting new beers, so this is one of our favorite ways to burn an hour or two. Find a local brewery and get a flight or two of different beers. We tend to always try different beers than each other so we can try double the beers. Most breweries have board games or corn hole (bags if you're not from the Midwest), so we usually end up playing a game or two and have a great time for less than $30.

If you don't have any breweries near your house just pick up a few new microbrews from your friendly, neighborhood liquor store and do a tasting at your house! We do this a lot too. Just don't think about the calories you're consuming since those craft beers are usually 300-500 calories per 12 oz. It's okay to treat yo'self sometimes! Calories don't count on date night ;-)

Laser tag

Find a laser tag or paintball place and go crazy. Jason and I actually usually end up on the same team and try to dominate the game - and we usually do dominate since he's a cop and I have an expert marksman ribbon from the Air Force. We will definitely survive the zombie apocalypse. I'd guess this date will set you back $40, maybe less if you can find a Groupon. 

Take a painting class (with wine!)

We have a ton of places around here that do these classes and while we haven't done it yet, Jason and I have both discussed wanting to try it out. Some of the places do a specific "date night" painting that's 2 different paintings that go together, which is obviously more fun that painting 2 of the exact same painting. These classes cost approximately $30/person, so it's a $60 date. Getting a bit more expensive, but still not too crazy. 

Couples massage off of Groupon

This will set you back $90 for the Groupon and an additional $30-40 for a tip (always tip the actual value, not what you paid), but man is it worth it. Jason and I did this around Valentine's Day/his birthday and it was so nice. We didn't even hold hands or talk or do any of that mushy crap - we just got side-by-side massages and had some wine afterwards, but it was still really nice and we both felt great afterwards. 

Go to a concert!

This is probably our favorite non-conventional date night - in the past 6 months we've seen Sia, the Red Hot Chili Peppers, and Adele. Those are listed in the order of expense - for Sia we were in the nose bleeds and it was in Orlando so it was probably around $150 total (not including drinks/parking). The Red Hot Chili Peppers was a bucket-list concert for Jason so I got some pretty good seats using American Expense pre-sale prices. However it was still pretty effing expensive and that doesn't include food/drinks/parking/shenanigans. And then Adele...we had nose bleed seats that cost a bajillion dollars and had to drive and stay in Miami for the night - so it was expensive but SO worth it. Jason and I always end up having a blast whenever we go to a concert and all three of those shows were amazing (Adele was the best and I don't even like her that much). 

Here we are at Frosty's after the Peppers concert - see how happy we are? DATE NIGHT!! 

So now I turn it to you - do you have any unconventional date night ideas? From free to Adele concert, I'm open for ideas!

What do you have planned for this weekend? We are going to the beach tomorrow morning and then it's pretty open after that. I have the feeling I'm probably going to end up getting a poke bowl because I'm an addict. STOP JUDGING ME!!

Have a fantastic weekend, friends!

I Got the Blues

The Monday Blues!

Seriously though friends - I am on the struggle bus for real today. 

I don't know what is going on, but having two Monday's in a row where I am seriously just not feeling it kind of sucks. So I have decided to keep today's post light-hearted and easy for all of us, since I'm sure I'm not the only one struggling today. 

This will be our weekend in review...with pictures and 7 word captions or less. Can I do it??

(probably not...I'm a bit wordy)

But I'm going to try! Here we go. 

Before workout - not crying, just tired.

(easy so far!)

Forced after workout smile - still tired.

(2 for 2 - yes!!)

Friday night date night with my hubs. 

Only dinner, no movie - we can't hang!

(I'm still making the 7 word thing work!)

These pictures will never get old!

Wearing pants on your head is cool!

Here's what happens while I make breakfast...

(I can't believe I'm still able to do this! 7 words isn't easy, folks!)

Easter egg hunt time!

In pajamas because we don't GAF.

After breakfast walk with daddy & Jax.

Family hike time!

Runner scared the shit out of Justin!

I love my Lillebaby (and my baby)!

Don't get in the water.

Even the gator thinks you're weird.

We're all looking at the camera!

Don't fall in. Seriously.

Quick break before heading back.

Jules isn't sure about the position change. 

She's FREE!

And she's done.

We all needed a nap. 

I did it!

That was actually a lot harder than I thought it was going to be.

I'm just glad I settled on 7 words or less instead of 5, since that's what I was originally thinking. 

Do you think you could describe your holiday weekend in 7 words or less? I know I can...

Not long enough.

BOOM!

I hope you have a great Monday!

How I Deal with My Anxiety

Happy Monday, friends! I hope you all had a great weekend! 

We had a super busy weekend, beaching and beering it up in the Fort Lauderdale area. Don't tell my husband that I agree with him since I always push back whenever he says it, but I really enjoy southern Florida. Jason always talks about wanting to move there and I argue that it's too expensive and hot, but I really do enjoy it there. We just both need to make a ton more money and then I'd be okay with it. Time to play the lottery.

Before I jump into my anxiety stuff, here is some weekend stuff.

Jason has family in town at their Florida condo in Sunrise, FL, which is 10 minutes west of Fort Lauderdale, so we made the trip down to see them Friday afternoon. We didn't end up leaving until 2 or so and hit some nasty traffic on the way down, so we stopped for dinner around 6:30 to try to avoid some of the rush hour traffic. The place we stopped was an Italian joint and it was pretty good, however the average patron age was approximately 70 and that's not a joke. Since we had Jax with us we ate outside and had a grandparent of some sort stop by our table every 2 minutes or so to talk about our dog and our kids. It was actually quite amusing and made me miss my grandparents a lot - my grandparents are awesome and I wish we didn't live so far away!

I managed to get a cute kid picture but failed on the group shot... #reallife

At least Justin looks good! We still had about an hour to drive after leaving the restaurant, which is no fun, and we didn't make it to his uncle's condo until 8 or so. Jules was all amped up and ended up staying awake until 9:30 or so, which is insane because it's a solid 2 hours after her bed time. But then she ended up sleeping through the night, so I'll take it! We all actually ended up sleeping until 9:30 Saturday morning, which is super late for us. We'd planned on going to the beach early in the morning, but by the time we had breakfast and got everything together, it was closer to 1 before we got down there. Oops!

As usual, the beach was absolutely beautiful. The water was warm-ish and clear and we all had a great time. I was a bit worried, however Jules absolutely loved being in the water. We bought her this float off of Amazon last year and she didn't really enjoy it last summer but absolutely loved it this beach trip. After we eased into the water (it was a little cold for us Floridians), Jason and I set her into the seat and after a few minutes of clinging to my fingers she started kicking and squealing with joy whenever a wave would rock her around. 

We obviously kept a really tight hold onto the float the entire time as this float doesn't really provide any life preserving elements - Jules was actually pulling herself halfway out of it by the time we were all ready to get out of the water. She's an insane daredevil baby. 

Then Jules and I played in the sand for awhile - throw sand into bucket, flip over to make castle, destroy castle, and repeat. I somehow managed to forget to put any sunblock on myself, but made sure everyone else was taken care of, so I guess that was a mom-win, me-fail?

By 3 or so we were all starving and since we were in the area, we had to stop off at Funky Buddha, which is our favorite brewery of all time. This was our first time going to the actual brewery - we usually just pick up their beers at the store - and we were not disappointed. Jason and I tried a few beers and we all got some food and just hung out for awhile, which is always a great time. 

I of course got a flight (always get the flight) and I really enjoyed all of the beers I tried. Jason tried a variation on Last Snow called Last Buffalo (or something like that) which is aged in liquor barrels, meaning it was strong AF. 

Still good. Still my favorite brewery.

The picture below is the best picture out of 5 pictures that I took of all of us in front of Funky Buddha... I'm going to start making everyone wear hats and sunglasses so we can get more consistent pictures together. That's essentially my secret to looking good in pictures. Wear a hat and sunglasses and smile #photogenic 

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We ended up sleeping pretty well on Saturday night too and got some donuts to share with Jason's aunt and uncle before leaving to make the drive home. Jules was awesome in the car (Justin's always awesome) and slept half of the way before we stopped to get some Subway, and then she just hung out the rest of the time. I can admit I'm pretty lucky that my kids are both awesome travelers!

I meal planned in the car while Jason drove the first part of the trip and no, I haven't forgotten about doing an entire post on that sometime soon, I promise!

I would like to talk about anxiety. 

Before I start, I do want to remind you all that I am not a medical professional or trained counselor or anything like that. I'm just someone who has been dealing with anxiety for a very long time and has some tricks that have worked for me that I'd like to share. 

I have had anxiety for almost 20 years now and for whatever reason, people are usually surprised to find I suffer from it. I've been told "you seem so confident and put together" and they just can't believe that I deal with anxiety, so I feel it is important to share my experience.

There are tons of different types of anxiety and lots of different people can be affected by it, but what I suffer from are panic/anxiety attacks. I still remember the first time I had an anxiety attack - I was 15 years old and laying on my bedroom floor watching Les Miserables on tv when my heart started pounding out of my chest at a rapid pace and I literally thought I was going to die. I ran downstairs to my mom in a total panic and she ended up rushing me to the hospital. I underwent a myriad of testing - cardiovascular tests, MRI and CT scans, blood tests, etc. In the end, the dr said I had anxiety and gave me Paxil, which I took for a couple of days, hated, and stopped. At that point, just putting a name to what I was experiencing was enough for me to feel better, and I don't believe I had another serious episode until I hit my 30's. Then for whatever reason, my anxiety came back with a vengeance and has stuck around pretty consistently since then. Here are the symptoms I experience, along with some of the things that will set me off:

Symptoms

  • Erratic or exaggerated heartbeats (heart palpitations, random large beats, etc); if this is happening to me you will often see me taking my heart rate to confirm it's fine - my resting heart rate is actually usually in the 50's because I'm in good shape, even while having an attack - but I always have to track my heart rate to make sure my heart is still working whenever I have an attack. 
  • Tunnel vision
  • I'm convinced I can't swallow which leads to me actually struggling to swallow
  • Vertigo
  • Light-headed
  • Breathing heavily

Triggers

  • Being over-tired
  • Driving long-distance
  • Driving through mountains
  • Driving over a bridge or even a tall overpass
  • Feeling constrained, like in certain roller coasters
  • Heights 
  • Elevators

As you can see, driving is a huge trigger for me, but I also have attacks at work on a regular basis. While I do have the attacks often while driving, I am fine while riding in the car. I find that I do better in the morning and as the day goes on, I start to have more issues. I don't have anxiety attacks every day, but I would say I have a few of them on a weekly basis, whether it's just the beginning of one that never actually comes to fruition, or sometimes giant, full-on panic where I have to excuse myself from what I'm doing or pull over if I'm driving. I also find that the frequency and severity can vary based on where I am at in my cycle - it gets really bad right before, during, and after my period.  

My anxiety never comes for any reason that I can quantify. For example, if I'm in an emergency situation I am always absolutely fine - in fact, I've often been complimented on how well I maintain my composure during an emergency. However I can be sitting at work having a normal conversation with a co-worker and go into a full-scale attack for seemingly no reason. 

Anxiety has no rhyme and reason and often makes no sense. 

There is one place where I never seem to have any panic/anxiety attacks and that's home. So there are times when I am really suffering when I will look forward to getting home for an entire day since I know I will feel better immediately.

If you're suffering from anxiety, the first thing I want to tell you is that you're not alone. I can almost guarantee that if you ask around you will probably have a number of friends/acquaintances who suffer as well.

I would also encourage you to see your doctor first to rule out any medical issues, as there are a number of medical conditions that can cause anxiety attacks. There were a few months in 2013 where I was having constant anxiety attacks on my way home from work, where I just happened to be eating almonds for a snack each time. Turns out, I'm allergic to almonds and was experiencing anaphylaxis - yeah, really. So go to the doctor. They'll run a bunch of tests and rule out anything medical and you can also look into medication at that time if you would like, since I know a lot of people have success with medicine. Although I do have a prescription for Xanax, I use it very sparingly - I will take 1/2 a pill an average of every 2 weeks whenever I can't sleep due to my anxiety, but that's it. I've had my prescription for over 3 months and still have over half of my 30 pills left. 

Other than the minimal medication I take when I need it to sleep, here are the other things I have done to help minimize my anxiety:

Reduce your caffeine intake

If I drink more than a cup of coffee (or the caffeine equivalent), I will have terrible anxiety and panic attacks all day long. If you are suffering from anxiety I highly recommend you cut out caffeine and see if it helps improve your symptoms. I do actually plan to quit caffeine completely one day in the hopes it will help my anxiety issues even more, however I have cut down my intake dramatically and it's made a definite difference so I'm okay right now keeping my one cup of coffee in the morning. 

Exercise

I think the benefits are two-fold for me with exercise - it's time I take for myself on a daily basis and it gets those good endorphins pumping. A word of caution though; whenever I do a seriously intense program like Insanity, my anxiety actually gets worse for a week before it settles back down. So I would recommend skipping the super intense stuff if you're really suffering.

Limit your alcohol intake

I try not to drink any alcohol during the week and really try not to drink excessively at all anymore (except for the occasional out-of-control date night with my husband or crazy girl's night out). This is just my experience, but I have found the more I drink the worse my anxiety is, even if I just have a glass of wine with my dinner. 

Meditation

I will be honest and let you know that I have not been meditating very often lately (or at all), BUT I have had a lot of success in the past with meditation helping my anxiety and I find that the more I do it, the more it helps. There are two apps that I've used on my phone, and when I practice I'll take 5-15 minutes after my workout in the morning to sit quietly and listen to a guided meditation. The apps I have used are Headspace and Insight Timer - the second one is actually my favorite, but I know a lot of people really like Headspace when they're starting out. 

Diffusing oils

First and foremost, I'm not trying to sell you anything so don't skip through this part thinking that's what I'm doing. I had read that oil diffusing helps a lot with anxiety and after having several really bad weeks in January/February, I bought some oils and a diffuser from Amazon. First off, my diffuser is pretty and the lights are very soothing. Secondly, I love the way the oil blends I use smell and I have found that I can minimize or eliminate an attack if I feel one coming on by breathing in the anxiety blend deeply. 

Whenever I'm at work my diffuser is on and pumping. It might be a placebo effect, but my anxiety has lessened a bit since I've started using it. In fact, I like it so much I even bought one for home and use a blend that's supposed to aid with sleep and guess what...it does seem to be helping me sleep better! Here are the items I personally use for anxiety; most often at work, but if I know I'll be driving long distance I will take my oil and breath it in deeply if I'm feeling an attack festering. 

Finally, I also take some supplements for my anxiety

If you are considering supplements please discuss with your doctor first as some supplements can interact with medications - plus, you should really talk to your doctor about anything health related! Here are the supplements I use, which can also be found under my favorites page. 

This magnesium drink is the number 1 thing I recommend. Not only do I feel a difference in my level of anxiety on the days I take it, it also has the added benefit of helping you stay regular! As such, if you do decide to get this as a supplement, start of with a 1/2 teaspoon and work your way up to a full dose.

Trust me here.

I dissolve a teaspoon or so into 2 ounces of hot water before leaving for work in the morning, let it sit for a minute or two, and then swish the water around to make sure all of the powder dissolves. I also add my next supplement to the hot water, which is Inositol. 

Inositol is supposed to help with anxiety and is also supposed to help alleviate PCOS symptoms. I discussed this in another blog, but I was diagnosed with PCOS and suffer from many of the symptoms of this disorder, including anxiety. I haven't been having as many of the PCOS symptoms since having Jules, but I would prefer they don't come back and as such, continue to take this supplement in the hopes it will stay away (PCOS really sucks - look it up). 

That's all I have in regards to my anxiety and what I do to try to alleviate it - do you have any issues with anxiety and panic attacks? If so, what have you tried to fix it and/or do you have any tips for me? I am always open to more ideas since it's still something I struggle with almost daily. 

Thanks for stopping by!

This post contains affiliate links, which means I receive a percentage of the sale if you make a purchase using the links. This does not change the price of the item (at all) and is something I have just decided to start trying since I do make recommendations on a regular basis. The opinions are still 100% my own and not at all influenced by me using the affiliate links.  

Being a Law Enforcement Wife

Happy Monday, friends! I hope everyone had a fantastic weekend. I don't know about you, but my weekend seemed short as a mother! Short like this mother, anyway - I'm 5'4", which I guess isn't really that short, but it sure seems that way when Jason or Justin put something on the top shelf in our kitchen and I have to climb onto the counter to get it!

Before I jump into the topic at hand, I thought it would be fun to do a quick weekend check-in. Jason was working this weekend, which means we ended up having a pretty low-key weekend, which was nice after having a pretty crazy past 3-4 weeks. 

First things first, I was not a hypocritical bastard on Friday!! I actually ended up doing my workout Friday around 7:30 after putting Jules to bed.

*virtual high-five with myself!*

That filtered-to-all-hell-post-workout-glow though #sohot

I'd also like to share my pre-workout snack from Friday with you guys, since I'm sure you've noticed that I'm a pretty big health freak...

Yes, that is Cap'n Crunch with Crunch Berries cereal. This crap is filled with all of the artificial coloring and flavoring, and I'm pretty sure there are even trace amounts of trans fat in there. Still, I love having a small bowl of cereal before a workout and Friday's workout was a leg workout so I knew the sugar would help me have an awesome workout.

PSA:

It gave me heartburn, so I don't recommend Cap'n Crunch pre-workout.

 

Saturday morning Jules and I woke up bright and early for a run, but had to take the dog for a walk first. Our dog is a 7 pound Shihtzu/Maltese (Shitese? Maltshit? Not sure what the designer dog name for him is...). Jules loves walking Jax and while he's not a huge fan, he tolerates it. 

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Jax is the perfect sized dog for her and he never pulls her or knocks her over. He's a really good boy when he's not being a jerk. 

Now if only Jules would help me pick up his crap too. 

After walking Jax we went on a 3.5 mile run and then kept it pretty easy the rest of the day before going to Jason's aunt and uncle's house for dinner (I forgot to take pictures of the food, but trust me when I say it was delicious) #worstbloggerever

We had nothing planned on Sunday (WOOHOO!) so Justin, Jules and I got up early to go to the grocery store, making a quick stop at the park for some swinging beforehand. Speaking of grocery stores, does anyone else go through phases with the stores they go to? Right now I'm on a pretty serious Trader Joe's kick, which is fine because I love Trader Joe's and they have awesome food. A few weeks ago I was hitting up Aldi's on the regular and before that it was Lucky's. I always go to Walmart for the bulk of our shopping, but hit up these other stores for meat and the random cool crap they have because I have a snack addiction and need all the chips. 

This brings me to the subject at hand, which is being married to the law. 

First off, if you had told me 20 years ago that I would be married to a cop, I would laugh in your face and walk off shaking my head. Shoot, if you'd told me 5 years ago that I'd be married to a cop I would have laughed at you. I'm a bit of a rule breaker and cops terrify me. 

But then you fall in love with someone and get married and that person just happens to want to be in law enforcement and now look at me, I'm the wife of a law enforcement officer.

He looks smoking hot in uniform, btw.  

We are only in our first year of this career change, but I can tell you that it's been a huge learning curve for all of us as a family. Working full-time with a teenager and a baby certainly don't help (although I'm sure it's just as crazy for SAHM's, just a different crazy). That being said, here are the tips that are keeping us afloat-ish. 

Be flexible. 

One of the things I learned almost immediately is that you have to be flexible. Jason works the night shift and his schedule is different every week. He's supposed to get off of work around 6, but sometimes doesn't get off until 8 or later, depending on what happened while he was on shift. When he does come home on time, he can help me get the baby ready for daycare and get out the door to go to my job but I can't rely on that happening since we never know what his shift will bring. 

Additionally, Jason has worked almost every holiday in the past year except for Christmas. We celebrated Thanksgiving the Saturday after the actual holiday and I got crunk while playing Guitar Hero with my kids for New Years Eve. Jason worked both Justin's and my birthday, but we made a point to celebrate both on a different day. You can't get stuck on the date itself - you have to be flexible and celebrate the day, not the date.

Have a schedule. 

I really enjoy being spontaneous sometimes, but with Jason's schedule we really can't do that anymore. Almost everything is scheduled based on whether he's working or not. Our weekend plans and vacations have to be more thought out than they've ever been, and our daily routine has to be scheduled almost to the hour in order for things to work. We even have a shared family calendar on Google that we are all able to access and change, so we can keep track of shifts, extra duty, appointments, dates, etc.  

To make things a bit easier I always go to the grocery store one morning of the weekend to get everything we need so I don't have to make any stops during the work week, and I plan all of our meals for the week prior to going so we get exactly what we need. I know that I have to be awake and out of bed by 5:20am (preferably by 5, but I'm a snoozer) in order to get my workout in before work. I know that I won't be able to do my workout after work, so getting it done in the morning is key.

That being said:

Make time for yourself

Jason works long hours and sometimes picks up part time work on his days off, meaning he's not home anywhere near as much as he used to be. This means a lot of the daily activities to keep the house up and running fall on my shoulders, which can be a huge responsibility sometimes. In order to keep my sanity I have to take time for myself. This includes my workouts in the morning, but I also try to take time a few nights a week to sit down and veg out on the couch for at least an hour after putting the baby down for the night. I also make it a point to take time to paint my nails once a week, since this makes me feel like a lady... 

Let it go (you're singing it now, aren't you?)

This applies to so many facets of our life. Jason and I both like certain things in the house to be clean, but different things (he hates clutter and I leave clutter all over my side of the bed/night stand, but I hate clutter on the kitchen counter and loathe dirty floors and toilets). We have both learned to just let things go when it comes to the house being spotless all the time. We clean when we can and when we can't, we can't. 

This also applies to fighting. Jason and I get along 95% of the time, but just like anyone else we do fight sometimes. However I never know for sure that he will come back from his shift when he leaves for work - that's the reality of the gig. So when he leaves we always make it a point to kiss and say I love you and in doing this, we tend to get over whatever we were upset about sooner. 

Make time for each other (we're still working on this)

One of my goals for 2017 was for Jason and I to have a date night once a month. I know we never made it out in January, but we went out a couple of times in February so I think we're on track to average a date a month so far this year. We've both acknowledged that this is something we need to make a bigger priority though. When we don't make time for each other, we start to nitpick and argue with each other more and that leads to insecurities and issues that probably don't even really exist. With all of life happening it can be really hard to find time, but once the kids are out of the house and we've retired we will need to be best friends and it's imperative we still like each other in order to do that!

Enjoy the time you do have together (put the phone down)

This is something I've gotten really crazy about myself and after nagging Jason enough, he's started to see the importance as well. I make it a point to put my phone down and away when we're spending time together, both as a couple and as a family. I may even have my phone more than he does now since I'm always trying to remember to take blog pictures (and failing 50% of the time, SORRY!). That being said, I try to snap a few pictures and then I put my phone away, since I want to remember the experience of what we're doing, not the pictures of the experience. I even force my teenage son to give me his phone when we are all hanging out so he gets in the habit of being present. 

If you need it, get help.

They say the divorce rate among law enforcement officers is higher than the average population, and I can definitely see how it's more difficult being married to the law than a regular citizen. However Jason and I both agree that we're in this for life and will fight for our marriage as hard as we need to, including going to counseling when/if we feel it's needed. Don't be ashamed to get help!

(don't judge my amazing outfit in these pics - aka, don't be jealous of how awesome it is)

Be each others #1 supporter

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I think this is important in all marriages, but especially important in ours. Jason knows that I support him in his career and that I want him to be happy and successful. Even more, he knows I believe in him 100% - he can truly be/do whatever he wants and I am proud of him for doing such a difficult job. And I know that he appreciates all of my contributions as a wife/mom/boss lady and he makes it a point to tell me he appreciates me/what I do on a regular basis. 

I remember when Jason first told me he wanted to go into law enforcement on a city/county level and I went online to look for some resources and experiences and all I could find were people griping and divorce statistics - SCARY! I hope this post is able to help someone out who's finds themself in the same boat as I did. I'll probably update this as I learn more and we get better

That wraps things up for me today. I hope you all have a wonderful week!

 

 

Never Skip a Monday

How is it Monday already?

Did anyone else seriously struggle to wake up today? And also struggle to fall asleep last night, meaning today is going to be a struggle squared.

Especially the day after daylight savings...why is this even a thing anymore? 

Especially the day after daylight savings...why is this even a thing anymore? 

Before I jump into the real subject of the day, first I thought it would be fun to share some weekend happenings. Jason was working this weekend so that means I was on my own with the kids. We spent a lot of the weekend running around and doing errands, grocery shopping, and threw in a hiking trip for good measure.

On Saturday we stopped by a puppy store and looked at two different puppies, a husky and a goldendoodle. Both were adorable and we loved them, but they're not "our" dog. And yes, I am actively looking for my new dog - I think I'm finally ready and I miss having one (Jax is awesome, but he is definitely Jason's dog). Can you see the husky's eyes though? They are so blue and he was so playful and fun, but after living in Alaska and hearing the constant howling of the husky's at the dog sled houses, I have always said I don't want anything to do with a husky. Plus, we live in Florida. It's hot here and they like the snow - it almost seems cruel to have a husky here, but they're actually a really popular breed in Florida right now.

On Sunday, Justin, Jax, Jules and I decided to go on a hiking adventure before hitting up Subway for lunch and going to the grocery store. We went to this place outside Sanford/Lake Mary called Black Bear Wilderness Area Trail. It's a 7.1 mile loop, but we only did about 1.5 mile out-and-back, since it was hot and we didn't really plan for a 3 hour hike. Jason went here once with one of his friends and they saw alligators and all sorts of stuff - we only saw birds. But I'd rather see only birds than come across a bear or an alligator up close. 

Moving on to today's topic, which is never missing a Monday.

This is something I try to abide by every single week unless I have the plague, which was where I was at last week. I've found that as long as I get my lazy butt out of bed and get my workout in Monday morning, it starts my week off on the right foot and I have a more productive week overall. On those occasions that I miss my Monday workout for whatever reason, I tend to be less active overall. Case-in-point, my workouts last week were less than stellar:

  • Monday - no workout, I had the plague
  • Tuesday - no workout, plague-recovery
  • Wednesday - strength training & pilates
  • Thursday - kickboxing
  • Friday - strength training
  • Saturday - nothing and no excuses for it; I was lazy
  • Sunday - strength training & 50 minutes of hiking

That's actually about half of what I would normally do activity-wise. A lot less cardio than usual and while I obviously needed to take Monday and Tuesday off, I could have been more active the rest of the week. But I skipped Monday and it threw everything off (that being said, my body probably needed me to be less active than usual, so I don't mind.) Respect your body, people!

So this week I'm going to hit-it hard, especially since it's my last week of doing Chalean Extreme before starting a new P90X/Running hybrid I made up and will post below. First, my schedule this week:

  • Monday - Run 3 miles (done)
  • Tuesday - Chalean Extreme Lean Circuit 1 & pilates
  • Wednesday - Run 4 miles, short yoga
  • Thursday - Chalean Extreme Lean Circuit 2 & pilates
  • Friday - Run 3-5 miles, do some sprints in there somewhere
  • Saturday - Chalean Extreme Lean Circuit 3 & HIIT
  • Sunday - Rest Day and I'm going to need it because starting on Monday.......
MadreDiem P90X & Running Hybrid
See the definition in my tricep? Love it!

See the definition in my tricep? Love it!

This is going to be a really intense schedule, but I think I'm ready for it. My body has changed a lot since I started Chalean Extreme, and it's all for the better! I've pr'ed in the 5K distance (and won 1st in my age group, NBD), and I've lost 7 pounds, some inches, and gained some serious muscle definition. I will do a final weigh-in and results post later on once I'm completely done and have been able to get everything noted down.

But now I'm ready to get really fit and badass again. I want to be able to do pull-ups again, and P90X is heavy on the pull-ups.

I'm talking constant pull-ups...

Also, while I've really enjoyed Chalean Extreme, I haven't really been sore. Like so sore you can't sit down to pee sore...and I remember being like this the last time I tried P90X and hope for more of the same this time. I like to be sore, at least for a day or two. 

One of the reasons I have never finished a round of P90X is because I'd always gain weight whenever I'd do it. I was always like, noooooooo I need to lose weight, I can't gain it. And then I'd quit and run like crazy until I lost the weight and then injure myself because you can't just run; you need strength training. Well it's been a few years since my last attempt and I've since learned a thing or two more about fitness than I used to know, including the fact that you tend to gain weight whenever you start a new program, but especially a strength program. So I know I may gain a couple of pounds here and there, but they'll drop off and eventually I hope to lose the final 5-7 pounds that have been hanging around since having Jules. One part of this will be cleaning up my diet, but I'll post more about that later another time since I've already written quite a bit. 

Needless to say, I will not be skipping next Monday.

And I highly recommend you don't skip it either. Find something active that you like and/or can look forward to, and make sure you start every week off right. 

What are you currently doing fitness-wise that keeps you active and excited?